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Keeping Expectations Realistic( For Nursery & Primary Children)

February 10, 2012

Keeping Expectations Realistic( For Nursery & Primary Children)

Keeping Expectations Realistic( For Nursery & Primary Children)

Go to any home that has little children, and you are sure to here all kinds of complains from parents. Indeed, one has to accept the fact that it is a tough job to manage children to suit your ways, and they will continue to test your patience in countless ways. Yet, to what extent is a young child responsible for his or her behaviour?

A deeper look reveals that most parents’ Complaints emerge from expecting too much from a child. A typical situation might go like this – You are visiting a relative who is very old and sick. It is a solemn occasion, and you want your family to stand by quietly. That is when your 3 years old starts running after a cat, screaming wit laughter. Instead of cringing in embarrassment, you need to ask one question- is the child to blame on such occasions?
It is perfectly reasonable for you to expect your child to act in a disciplined way. But the reality is that the child has yet to develop the skills, understanding, and awareness to do this. Experts say that the part of a child’s brain that controls his her impulses and emotions matures very slowly. So when a child shows obstinacy, he or she is probably just behaving naturally.

This would mean that quite often, it is the complaining parents who need to make some adjustments in attitude. Make realistic assessment of what your child is capable of , and adjust to the situation. To give another example, you might want your 4-year old child to share his or her toys with a child who’s visiting. But the reality is that pre scholer do not yet have an idea of what others feel. He or she does not understand that the other child wishes to play with the toy in his or her hand. On possible way out is for you to put away a couple of toys in advance, to share with visiting child.

Think twice before putting all the blame on your child, and find way to manage situations that may seem tough. One problem, of course, is that a child’s behaviour is often unpredictable. Factors like attention span, sociability etc. also depend on other factors like his or her mood or level of fatigue. Yes, it is a tough job to manage kids. Yet, how rewarding it is!

From:- Magic Pot


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